To switch, or not to switch.. my reasoning behind why we are a spank free home

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I get it, kids don’t have a great attention span, but I think we underestimate how much they comprehend, and because of that we don’t think using communication is the best way to get our point across. My daughter is two years old, and I never have lengthy conversation with her about what landed her in timeout. I keep it short and sweet, and she understands perfectly and corrects her behavior, for the most part, all on her own.

If we choose to undermine the intelligence of our children, and treat them as if they are below talking their problems out, then what are we teaching them when the only consequence is pain? And yes, I was spanked with belts, spoons, hands etc. when I was younger. Did it correct my behavior, sure, but not because I fully understood why I needed to correct my behavior, I just didn’t want another painful spanking. The results came from fear of being spanked, not from learning how to make better decisions in the future.

My child hates timeouts, but she knows, even at the grand age of two, that there are consequences for her actions, and she accepts those consequences. It gives her time to calm down, get out of the mindset she was in when she threw the block at the window after I told her to put it away, and it also puts her in a mindset to calmly listen to me when I briefly discuss why that behavior is unacceptable.

Like I said, amillion times, what works for one family, won’t work for all, but there is nothing that aggravates me more than when people say “well they are too little comprehend”, cause if that is truly the case when it comes to communication, then I can only imagine what their perception of reality is when mom or dad put a belt/hand/spoon/switch to their bottom.

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